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Completing Him Challenge #1

This challenge began on June 7, so I am way behind in participating. After reading about it this evening, I liked the idea so much that I decided to just jump right in. You can read about this challenge at Women Living Well.

This week’s challenge was to make a list of things you do and ask your husband to prioritize them. I am a big time organizer/list-maker/cleaning freak. These are my priorities most of the time. When I toss homeschooling into the mix, then I become a big-time homeschooling organizer/list-maker/freak (period).

I am blessed to have a husband that appreciates all I do and expects very little of me. I really don’t even know why I’m around sometimes. He would do just fine without me! I do try to please him, and as we learn from God’s Word, the woman was created for the man. (Gen. 2:18) I do want to bless my husband every way that I can, and I realized that I often attack each day accomplishing what I think ought to be done, or what I think he would like to be done, without ever consulting him.

So, this evening I asked him what five things he would like me to make a priority. I didn’t get five. I got three. But hey, it’s a start! 🙂

My hubby’s top priorities for me:

1. The intimate marital relationship.
2. Caring for the children, which includes homeschooling.
3. Serving the Lord outside the home.

I want to elaborate on #2. My husband has a unique schedule – he creates his own. He is a pastor and has many responsibilities. However, he is often flexible – as am I. We must be ready at any given time to drop everything and help someone. He often comes in and out of the house throughout the day between tasks.  Because of this “flexibility”, I will often lean upon him when he pops in and out. This would often thwart his plans, but being the gracious guy that he is, he would bend and help me when I needed it. A while back, the Lord showed me that my leaning upon him was a tying him down. I asked him if, in fact, my feelings on the matter where right, and they were. I felt terrible and immediately set about to correct the situation. I’m so thankful that I saw this flaw and fixed it before a huge fight erupted. Since then, he has really appreciated all I do with the children, and as I learned tonight, it’s still very important to him.

I am blessed to have a husband who will cook a meal, vacuum a floor, change a diaper, or care for me when I’m sick. I owe him so much, but I often feel at a loss to show him my love in tangible ways. Men are usually not “wordy”, and mine is very typical in that way, so writing a love note or saying “I love you” doesn’t mean as much to him as it does me. It takes work and thought to show him how much I care for him. I hope that by making his wishes a top priority in my life I can show him how much I love him.

Valerie

7 thoughts on “Completing Him Challenge #1

  1. Hello! I'm participating in the Completing Him Challenge, too! May God bless your marriage as you share your list with your husband.

    For His Name's Sake,
    Deborah
    Homemaker Honey
    homemakerhoney.com

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  2. Good post! I have found that to be true — my husband would rather not have a hot dinner / clean house / etc if the kids are falling apart and not cared for… that should be one of my top priorities too.

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