I’m currently finishing up my degree in Elementary Education. The class I’m in now, Mathematics Methods, is all about various strategies and tools for teaching math. The below quote, taken from a portion of the book that was discussing “Problem-Based Learning” caught my attention. The idea of problem-based lessons is to allow the student to find a solution – and there are many possible ones – for a problem. After the teacher explains the problem and the type of product she is looking for, she has to let the student “embrace the struggle.” The books says:

“Let Go! Once students understand what the problem is asking, it is time to let go. Encourage students to embrace the struggle. Doing mathematics takes time, and solutions are not always obvious.” (Elementary and Middle School Mathematics, p. 58)

This quote is true of math, and life. Well, my life, anyway. I have three adult children right now, (mostly) on their own. Before they left, I tried to explain the problem, and now it’s time for me to let go, and let them embrace the struggle. Sure, I’m here to embrace them any time they want, to let them know I love them, care for them, miss them, and pray for them, but then I have to let go again and let them continue their struggle.

This textbook says, “Doing mathematics takes time…” Yes, doing life takes time, too. A lot of time – at least it feels that way. It goes on to say, “…and solutions are not always obvious.” I have given my children the greatest answer book ever – God’s Word – but it requires that they read it, and yes, you guessed it! Struggle with it! It takes digging, and mulling, and faith. That last one only comes from God.

The book goes on to say, “Although it is tempting to rescue students who are feeling frustrated and uncertain in the during phase, they will learn more if you provide support without just showing/telling them how.” (p. 58)

It is tempting to rescue my kids, but you know, I don’t think that is for the best. I think they are better off with just my support and love. While I may know the correct answer to a math problem, I may not know the correct answer for their lives. God is in control, and He knows the path they should take. Their journey may lead them far away from where I think they should go, but God knows best.

Ultimately, I know they will learn more by embracing the struggle, in math, and in life.

With love,