If you are in the ministry in any capacity – full time, part time, whatever, then you have had your share of downs. You have a plan for a new and exciting program and everyone gets sick, or no one cares. That’s a bummer! We have been in several churches, and sometimes we just don’t see the results we were hoping for. I believe whether your church runs 10 or 10,000 there are discouraging times of many shapes and sizes. In my short ministry experience of 10 years, we have moved several times. We never left under bad circumstances, but we were always hoping things would be even better at the next location. This I know: there are problems everywhere! I often think of this as the “grass is greener syndrome”. I get that way any time things get rough! I think “so and so has a church of ___ (whatever number). Or “So and so has this better or that bigger than we do” It LOOKS really good from 100 or more miles away! But if we zoom in, we see the problems that person is facing, and then the weeds start to show!

It is in these times and only these times, that I focus on the negative! I think about the drawbacks to the climate of that “other place” maybe it’s freezing 9 mos. of the year, maybe it’s 115 degrees in the summer and humid (we have low humidity and a mild winter climate! yea!). Or whatever is different. I think about the possible problems that that church might be facing that we are not – needing to build a building (that’s good, but hard!) – having large debt, and on I go thinking of all the negatives that I can! It makes my problems seem smaller, and my blessings so much bigger and better! After a good look at the negaitves, I have successfully cured myeself of the “grass is greener syndrome”. Maybe you could try it!

I have a feeling we all go through this, whether in full time ministry or not!

I thank the Lord for helping bloom where I’m planted – whether I’m in a desert or a rain forest!

2 thoughts on “Focus on the Negative!?

  1. [How very true]
    Your right! Everyone in ministry or not goes through this, but a lot of people would see it as a flaw in themselves to have to admit it. In their own eyes making themselves fall short of the “Perfect Person / Christian Syndrome”.

    We have found out by sharing in Discipleship the opposite is true. The more that we can tell people that we have walked down the same road – with doubts, fears, troubles, temptations, etc., and share how we got victory or starting to get the victory in these areas, the more we can be affective for Christ. It also shows people that we all are human and that no one's a Super Natural Christian.

    What a great post!

    You hit on one area that I had been getting the victory on. Though I have not conquered.
    “The Grass Is Greener Syndrome” always pops up on me when, only a hand full of people show up for mid-week services or ladies meeting. Or no one shows up at all.
    It's really tough during these times, but lately I stop and ask myself, “Who am I truly serving- God or Mammon”?
    I am working on having the same awesome feeling/attitude that I get when we have a group of 40 on Sunday AM and having the same feeling Sun PM and Wed PM when we have 6-13 people.
    I tend to see the crowd of people more encouraging. Which is good, but bad. I know you will know what I am talking about.
    Wow! Did I just write all that? ;]

    All this to say, from a Pastor's Wife to a Pastor's Wife you've blessed me today!!

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  2. The you tube video's were hilarious.

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