He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends. ~ Proverbs 17:9
What a lovely description of devotion and love! I have failed my entire family more times than I can number. Yet they do not throw my faults in my face or rehearse them to me over and over. While I’m sure they remember some of those wounds, they never use them against me. I am so blessed. I would like to think I have shown them the same kind of mercy myself, but as I pause to consider that, I’m afraid I’ve failed in that area.
Have you ever shared something in confidence with someone, perhaps a counselor, only to find out later that it was told to others? That hurts. That’s a betrayal, something that can easily break friendships. I think I’m guilty there, too.
What a blessing to know that our Savior has forgiven our transgressions, and forgotten them! (Psalm 103:12) What a joy to know that, through Christ, I can learn to forgive and forget others’ failures, and likewise learn to keep private things private.
In my seventeen year marriage, I have said things that I regret. I have done silly, thoughtless things that have hurt my husband. He has never shared my failures with anyone, not even his parents. He could easily round up a posse of support to run me out of town if he told friends and loved ones about all the times I’ve failed him, but he does not do this. Instead, he shows me mercy as he covers my shortcomings with a mantle of love.
Romance is flowers, chocolate, kisses and hugs when you feel “in love”. But true love is forgiveness, mercy, protection and grace when you least deserve it. I am blessed to know that kind of love.